BULLIES are still in...

Throughout life one may experience the uneasy scared feeling of being bullied. For some it may just be a one time thing where it was only in elementary, high school, university or at a certain work place. However, the ones who experience the worse type of bulling would have to be from home. Home is suppose to be a sanctuary or a place where someone goes to to be safe when the world is spiraling downwards. Just like on television, whenever a child or teen who is facing a problem has their parents to go to for comfort. Thats home in my perspective and some are very lucky to have a supportive family that are seen on sitcoms. I'm pretty sure no family is perfect though and every life is different, but for those who face a very hot tempered father and a mother who can care less at times could probably relate to the lost feeling that may be expressed. Being put down and told that whatever one is doin is always wrong, constant yelling and ordered around. Where does one go to console themselves? How can one stay strong enough without showing a hint of fear? Most of all how can one ignore a life so disfuntional that something right is wrong unless its done by the person who supposively knows everything. Having a parent that acts like a bully is extrememly hard to cope with and seeing no change growing up its impossible to find respect in them. All together its hard to decide where to begin with due to frustration and knowing that opinions just get one in more trouble. From being sheltered all the time as a child and not experience the joys of a kid to more limits as one goes from elementary to highschool. Now its onto university college and the transition hasn't been so bad but the thought of being trapped is still in mind. Though the hardest part to see and hear is one's siblings being put down. There really is no way out if this continues and hope is just too far away. Friends and other family are a great help, but that's only temporary. Where does one go? There really has to be more to life.

Can you spell SMART? Because it's so IN!

In terms of cliques in university, ranks on cool to total loser don't matter at all. The people one would connect with are most likely friends they've known for quite sometime. In a sense, at university/college , the atmosphere is more mature and grown up unlike high school. According to me the need and wanting to be popular and with the in crowd has lost it's taste because only the one with the brains survive here. Which is why I believe that the SMART KIDS are IN and the once COOL and POPULAR are OUT! After observing a few of my classes i still notice the once popular kids still very out going and always looking their best with a crowd of friends, but the "rep" they had has no presence in the classroom unless they are some what intelligent. Unlike the smart kids, who may have a 4.0 G.P.A., really stand out in the classroom mostly because they know every answer to the questions the professor asks and actually speak out. Now that's intimidating! Since it is university it's perfectly normal cause we're all here to get ahead in learning about what we want to be, career wise, and not to try and be someone we're not. What a milestone in growing up! Just realizing right now what's important boggles my mind cause I am still thinking about high school and actually liking the clique, ranking system that I sort of feel lost to my place in university. I guess my professor is right, that if any one is trying to become the coolest kid and trying so hard to fit in back in high school lose it, cause none of that matters. Though the popular will always be good looking and have everything they want, people do change and what gets one through life is their brain. I've always known that, but i guess actually living and taking it in to change just came into reality now.

Comfy Casual VS Skin Tight Awkward

In my state of mind I do believe that dressing well in a fashion sense is important, but not to the point where one is completely uncomfortable. Adjusting from high school to a business office environment then back to school (university) has affected the way i choose to dress. Up until now I realized that dressing appropriately to my surroundings makes more sense then to dress to impress. However people do have their own intake on what suits them in terms of wardrobe, which is fine. I discovered though, roaming through campus that the best way to go is to be comfy in my clothes. After all I am just there to learn and I kind of wish that i knew that back in high school! Although there is a side of me that wants to dress up from time to time and I know that if I do start to feel the pain of the high sticks (stiletto pumps) I shouldn't complain about it too much. So right now comfy shoes, not so fitted clothing is totally IN and high sticks, tight attire are OUT unless I'm going somewhere else that's not school. What comfy is to another person is completely their preference and I just happened to discover a different way to dress. Thank God for KEDS!